I’ll admit it: I love to be alone. I love being single. Yes, there are periods of loneliness and dreams that have yet to arrive — but I love the quiet solitude of my creative life. If you’ve read “Home”, you know that I grew up in a chaotic, dysfunctional family and my present life springs from those roots. I thank the Divine and my younger self who made difficult choices that ultimately brought this beautiful independence.
Being alone isn’t for everyone and all souls have particular desires and benchmarks. You may love being in the midst of the maddening crowd. Maybe you thrive on the adrenaline. Maybe you can’t get enough of being around your family. But no matter how you slice it, we will have times of being alone.
We may cross paths with a soulmate and have our hearts broken through a painful separation. Some will live with a soulmate or long for one while in an unhappy marriage. Some of us will not be married or have a long-term partnership because our souls have other lessons (karma) to fulfill. Some will choose to live in a monastic community after a divorce. Some of us will meet our primary soulmate right before we die or will cycle through meaningful (or not) relationships and end up alone.
People have often said, Raven, you’re so ____ (beautiful, smart, gifted, etc), then wonder why I’m not married. I used to be offended, as if that was my ultimate success. I’m more understanding now — because I know that they want me to be loved and supported. The truth is: I have many relationships and have loved deeply and passionately in this lifetime. I’ve also had my heart shattered — and it takes me a long time to heal from betrayal and disappointment.
Yet from this pain, I’ve forged the truest and most loyal relationship: with myself. It’s gold, baby — and I’ll never trade it in. When I came to accept the life I have — rather than what I thought would make me happy — my creative abilities jumped up and said, Finally! We can come out now! From this love, my intuitive abilities have never been stronger and continue to increase in power.
There are many gifts in being alone and I’m grateful for every one. It’s funny to write that because I also know that a long-term partnership/marriage is on the horizon. I’m at peace either way because I’m already married — to my soul — and she’s amazing.