I just read great advice from Seth and he inspired me to write my own business tips.

Here are 10 that will help you thrive in your business. I started Shivaya Wellness back in ’07 with a different biz name and direction. I’ve come a long way but still follow these simple steps to keep my balance and stay focused.

1. You can do exactly what you want to do. Yes, that sounds pie-in-the-sky, but it’s true. It just may come in different forms than you expect. It’s not like I grew up thinking that I’d channel my intuitive abilities into a business. However, I always saw myself as a writer and teacher. These are fulfilled every day through my work.

2. Listen well, but be ever more discerning. Much of the advice out there is crap. Or it doesn’t fit because they aren’t you. Listen, but find your own unique way. Most of all, avoid skeptics and bitter folk who hate that you are taking a risk. You don’t have to convince anyone of the value of your life, or your work.

3. Patience rewards. It took me 4 years before making the leap to full-time (without a trust fund or a partner paying the bills) — and then a year or two of juggling very slim, nerve-wracking $$ months. If anything, being an entrepreneur requires a ton of faith and ten tons of patience. It has only been in the last year that I’ve seen the Wheel of Fortune turn. Once you’ve worked with enough people, they will help continue your business through repeat sessions and referrals. Remember: infinite patience produces immediate results (A Course in Miracles). 

4. Goals and business plans are overrated. When someone asks my goals, my reply is: to have none. Maybe it’s age, wisdom or pure laziness, but I don’t chase after a list of goals in my business. What I desire is to be – and have enough money that provides the ease in which to do so. However, I regularly practice #8.

5. Be the eternal student. I constantly learn from my clients (many of whom are self-made), blogs, articles, books and being around other healers. I ask questions. I watch videos. I have sessions with intuitives to learn their techniques. I spend hours contemplating, “How can I express this idea to help my readers?” or “How can I adjust my business to stay interested?” I have degrees in English, but am not a perfect writer. I write, constantly edit and keep reading. I learn the ins & outs of WordPress and social media. I keep up. Being the eternal student keeps you fresh and interested in life — and injects your business with a constant source of enthusiasm.

6. Learn how to budget and be obsessively organized. This is the biggest fail I see with other healers: carelessness with and towards money. I keep a spreadsheet of all business transactions, as well as a personal budget. I have a line of credit I use sparingly. I make sure my bills are paid on time and over the minimum whenever possible. How you treat money in your personal life will most certainly bleed into your business, so hire an accountant/office manager if you have difficulty with this — and learn how to be obsessively organized. Be clear about rates/services, send invoices on time and follow through.

7. Look, act and be professional. Reputation is everything. Be sincere in your presentation and in your words. I quickly learned the value in being direct about rates, showing up early for a session and doing the absolute best I can. There is no room for laziness or taking clients for granted. They are providing you with two very rare resources: their time and money.

8. Get clear on your ideal client, ideal day and ideal rate. I only work with whom I care to work. This took me years to realize: I don’t have to work with everyone. There are plenty of healers for the overflow. Once I became clear on my ideal client and ideal day, my business transformed. I was also refreshingly clear and energized, rather than dragging around a perpetual exhaustion. When you start your business, you may have to take less-than-ideal gigs. But that doesn’t mean you need to sacrifice your ideals on the altar of drudgery. Get clear — and raise your rates accordingly.

9. As you grow and change, so will your business. Be flexible. I started out as a “Tarot reader” but that only encompasses a part of my business. I am a writer, consultant and mentor. If I had to be pinned down by a name, I’d say: healer. There are times that one tool of my skill set becomes more dominant than another. That’s okay. As long as I enjoy my work, the particular names don’t matter. I also know that my business may completely change in the future, and am open to the next step. Boredom is the biggest killer of a biz. Be flexible and practice #5.

10. Be proud of what you do. Whether you are a doctor, mechanic or witch, be proud of your work. It’s still kind of odd that I actually use Tarot cards in my business — but I love my work. There’s nothing better in life than giving someone hope.

20. April 2012 · Comments Off · Categories: blog · Tags: , , ,

“My Anger Wears A Black Hoodie” is a favorite piece from my quasi-memoir, The Reluctant Tarot Reader: Adventures in the Gypsy Trade. My anger has shared an uneasy alliance with the rest of my parts; this is a report back from the battlefield.

If you’ve already finished The Reluctant Tarot Reader - thank you! I’d love a review over at Amazon, if you feel so inclined.

MY ANGER WEARS A BLACK HOODIE

 (from The Reluctant Tarot Reader: Vignettes of Fire)

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I want to be a kinder, more peaceful person. I do. It’s such an appealing idea. Thich Nhat Hanh in his economically titled book, Anger, suggests embracing rage like a mother comforting her baby.

Now is the ideal time: my latest ex helpfully shares that I have anger issues before yelling, “Fuck off!” and slamming down the phone.

The happily-ever-after quickly turns to sitting shiva. Lust, Insecurity, Vulnerability and Happiness already circle up by the fire, attempting to thaw out. This time, I invite Anger but she doesn’t even RSVP. She just shoots over with a trunk full of explosives.

Giddy up, little soldier.

I envision a looming presence and am startled when a 4′ 11″ gansta covered head to toe in a skull-stamped black hoodie swaggers up. She stops right at the edge of the Welcome mat as the others nervously ignore her. She’s crashed many a party and after three decades, they are finished with her antics.

Anger stands there like a concrete pillar; doesn’t show her face or let me take her hoodie. She is goddamn for sure not going to sit until she goddamn well pleases. Still, it’s toasty inside and she looks tired of being left out in the cold. There’s some old beef with Vulnerability but she isn’t here for a throwdown. Not yet. More pressing matters press.

Happiness and Insecurity sip Manhattans and chat away in an effort to regain their feminine graces, while Lust simply pouts in a corner. It’s been a tough week for all after losing a sultry summer romance that offered regular doses of wild sex. Anger is ready to rumble and pissed that we aren’t rushing to the safety deposit box to grasp the well-worn Scorched Earth Policy. Not that it is needed. We know it by heart.

Though her eyes are cast down, I feel a bubbling excitement lengthening her spine. Her thoughts thrust out like shiny swords.

Payback time. What did that bitch say? Fuck off? Ha. Anger? She ain’t seen nothin’ yet. We filter everything through a defensive shield? Smart cookie. Not too in touch with her own issues. When I’m done with her, Anger mumbles, she’ll feel every wounded piece of herself. Call it my special trigger-point therapy.

The more I tune into my nemesis, the more my blood pulses. That same thrilling rush of adrenaline.

Maybe this is life, I think. Tell the truth. Nothing held back. Fuck it. Anger and I do so well together. Our exs may not like us but they sure as hell remember us.

Bubble, bubble, toil and trouble.

Love, the Goddess, glows with extra wattage in the periphery. I roll my eyes at her.

Gimme a break. I know your game. You want me to feel all empathetic. “Let go”. Be compassionate ‘n shit. Remember “the good”. Realize “the purpose” of our time together. Right. Here we are, processing another broken heart. Same old shit. Same old place. Bitter and hopeless. I’m done with soft.

Glow, glow, glow.

Anger pushes, pushes, pushes to call back, pick up a pen, do something for fuck’s sake!

Let’s go! Are we going to fucking let her get away with that fucking shit? No one talks to us like that! What the FUCK are you doing sitting there? Don’t pay attention to Love!

This time, I hesitate. The wearisome toll that Anger demands tilts the scales. I want us to finally experience something that is a rarity in our world.

Peace.

I offer her a drink — but am met with a huffy refusal.

She does, however, step over the threshold.

13. March 2012 · 15 comments · Categories: blog · Tags: , ,

If you do Tarot readings (or any intuitive work, for that matter), you will most certainly have a session that goes south. This is how you dig out. Enjoy “When A Read Goes South” from my ebook, The Reluctant Tarot Reader: Adventures in the Gypsy Trade.

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Sometimes there will be the occasional client who throws you off your game.

This is a good thing.

I gave a session the other day to a new client. As she shuffled and spread a Celtic Cross (a slightly different sequence than this example, but you get the idea), I felt pretty confident. As she turned over the cards, I zoomed in on each one, crafting the story, getting a grip on the situation.

At least what I thought was the story and situation.

The way I “read” is a witches’ brew of intuition, card knowledge, stream-of-consciousness, stories and when appropriate, an off-color joke and occasional swear to spice it up.

Usually I prefer to start rolling without too many comments from the client. So, I rolled with this particular session and thought that she was right there with me.

But something wasn’t right, even with her regular nods. I could feel it. More »